Far, far away there was a land where everyone was happy. Marriages were strong. Children obeyed their parents. In this land, perfect families thrived. Everyone was always smiling and laughing. No one was sad or lonely. Everything was perfect.
The ‘outside’ world couldn’t penetrate this perfect world. This world was well-fortified and impenetrable. Everyone felt safe in this world, until… Until they turned off their smartphones and shut down their laptops to enter once again into the ‘real’ world. Until they had to leave this make-believe world behind.
You see, in the real world life is drastically different from the life people have created for themselves on social media. On social media people ONLY post pictures of a smiling, happy family. But what the photos don’t show is what happened before that photo was captured.
Our social media photos never show a family in turmoil or a family on the brink of disaster. The rising tension that has taken up permanent residence in our home is usually not depicted in a simple snapshot.
We can be anyone we want to be on the pages of social media.
On social media we don’t try and keep up with the Joneses; We ARE the Joneses!
What concerns me about this world is that people often believe the hype. They see the photos of happy families and become envious, or worse, depressed. They believe that everyone else’s life is better than theirs.
People see the birth announcements, the marriage announcements, and the achievements of other people’s kids, and start to feel that they are in some way a failure because their life doesn’t measure up to the lives of these ‘perfect’ people.
Well first of all, no one is perfect. NO One. We all have failures and shortcomings. Skeletons in our closets, that we are striving very hard to keep hidden. Like I said before, no one is perfect.
For centuries people have found ways to escape from the realities of their lives. Some seek escape at the bottom of a bottle, and become alcoholics. Some hope to find escape through drugs, and become drug addicts. Some think that if they run away, then all of their problems will be solved, thus they become absentee fathers (they are also known as dead-beat dads).
I’ve never done drugs and could never understand why people would take those first shaky steps into the world of drugs, knowing that there is a possibility that they could become addicted, and as a result, lose everything they’ve worked so hard to build.
But after the death of my husband and dealing with the subsequent grief and depression that goes along with that, I had an epiphany. I remember thinking one day: Ohhh…now I understand. Now I understand why some people turn to drugs. Because sometimes life hurts so bad that you want something (anything!) to numb the pain. That was a great eye-opener for me. And although I didn’t turn to drugs, I often found other ways to numb the pain.
So don’t think that you are the only one suffering. Don’t believe for a moment that you are the only one hurting. The people around you are hurting too. But most people don’t have the courage to admit it. Most would rather keep up pretenses. Most are afraid to admit that their lives are in turmoil, and that they feel as if they are losing control, or, losing their minds.
Most people would rather enter into another bad, or a loveless relationship instead of being alone. They see their being alone as a curse. I’d rather have someone than be alone. So they settle, and inevitably become more miserable WITH someone than they ever were WITHOUT someone.
Closed doors often hide a lot of chaos. You’d be surprised at what’s really going on behind the doors of the homes with the white picket fences. Sometimes the house on your block with the greenest grass (the one you secretly envy) is really just a front for a home which, on the inside, is dead and lifeless. Don’t be fooled by what you see. Sometimes what we see is just a smoke screen for what’s really going on.
So when you see another image of perfection on social media, don’t fret, don’t worry, don’t cry. Don’t measure your life by what you see on social media. The land of social media is a faux world that has been created for people to escape from the reality of their lives.
It’s also a money-making tool. The powers that be have set up this faux world as a way to exploit people, to coax them into sharing their lives with their “friends,” so they can make a profit off them. Social media is designed to keep you engaged and fixated. You are fed a lot of material which is designed to convince you that you can’t live without this material.
This world is fake. And it’s certainly not sustainable. So please don’t buy into the hype.
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